It is defined as “to keep something or somebody upright or in place…to prevent from falling.”
In architecture, support is ESSENTIAL! Without it, whatever we design, whatever we attempt to build would just come crashing down. Foundations support the walls, which support th
e floors and roof above. Engineers calculate and diagram all the loads a building will need to withstand in order to be fully supported.
But here is my question to you…Are YOU fully supported?
Fully supported…those words give us a sense of security don’t they? It is reassuring to feel that you won’t fall, that there is a solid safety net underneath you that you can fully trust. Oftentimes, we feel that we are somewhat invincible…or that we can work best in solitude. I can understand that–others can add their drama, their issues, etc. which inevitably adds conflict or further confusion and delay to our work. All the stuff we would rather do without. For expediency, we might want to rely solely on ourselves, without the distraction others can generate. But, here’s the thing…we CANNOT always work and be totally alone. There will be times where that support system is vital.
Even our physical bodies need solid support. Every woman knows the importance of a good bra! While, yes we look for sexiness, support is essential! Those who struggle to walk know the importance of a solid cane or crutches! And, the arches of our feet are always begging for good support!
Recently, I was a bit overwhelmed with the exciting, but challenging work that my upcoming book and the accompanying life coaching/speaking business have brought into my life. It can definitely take me far out of my comfort zone. I’ve been an architect for almost 25 years, and I know that role exceedingly WELL! But I need to step outside what I know best, to embrace the new chapter or branch that is emerging in my business and life. And just when I was down, a bit depressed over the slow pace of progress (something I am entirely NOT used to!)…I met up with two of my best girlfriends for a catch-up happy hour. Needless to say, they were the support I desperately needed. Their pep talk, which came from a place of knowing me so deeply, was completely on point, intuitive, and powerful. I realized that they had provided the much-needed support to my faltering self. Their insight and advice were a vital gift that day.
Equally important, is our need and obligation to be that support for others in our lives. Supporting others in their pursuits and their struggles breeds a feeling of community, companionship, and compassion. The three C’s… And in this unsettling world of self-entitlement and self-importance, we could all use more of those C’s.
So, even though you may be on the fast-paced treadmill of life….remember to build and put in place your support system. Nurture it, be present for it, and cherish it. You never know when the next life earthquake can hit–and at those moments, support means everything!